The wedding industry is full of eager couples, excited for their wedding day. Why is communication during your wedding planning process so complicated?

You haven’t set clear expectations with your fiancé

You don’t know what you don’t know, and that includes how you communicate. At the beginning of your wedding planning journey, be sure to set expectations about how and when you will discuss the planning process. For example, you both should determine if talking after work, or setting aside one day a week to connect about wedding planning works best for you both.

It’s also imperative for you to identify what you want to accomplish during each discussion. If you want to follow the lead of your wedding planner, and use the time after those meetings to debrief? Would you rather spend Sunday afternoons discussing what needs to get done during that week? 

Either way, you must figure out how you want to spend your time. Setting expectations gives you clarity on what is important to the both of you for your wedding day, and beyond.

You are distracted during discussions

During all of the wedding madness, it’s important to take time to connect with your fiancé, without the chatter of the outside world. The same way you wouldn’t be doing one million other things if you were on a date, is the same way it should be when discussing your future. Turn off the television and silence your phone, to give each other undivided attention.

If you need something a little longer, and larger in scale, there’s always the option of making a change in scenery, and getting away. You could spend a day out on the town, or book and vacation/staycation. As long as you create intentional space to connect, and express your dreams for your wedding planning process.

You haven’t identified you partner’s communication (and work) style

Whether you’ve been together for six months, or six years, it is imperative to know how you and your partner communicate. This is important, not only for your engagement, but for your ultimate marriage. Consider if your partner needs additional time to process new information, or if it’s best for them to communicate on the fly. This will all aid in your efforts to make decisions and agree on future happenings.

Figure out how involved your partner wants to be in the process. Determine if they are into the little details, but if they want to Simply make decisions about the larger items. If you don’t know each other’s communication style, find a quiz like this one to help you identify them.

Along with understanding how you communicate, make sure you are being there for your partner, by actively listening. Do your best to never brush off their concerns as trivial, or not important. This is their wedding as much as it is yours.

Communication is key at the beginning of your engagement. The wedding planning process should be an enjoyable one, with an open and host partner. As you plan for your wedding, set expectations, remove any distractions during the discussions, and understand your partner’s communication.

Now it’s your time to communicate with Purposely Designed Event Planning

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